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borearomantic/boreasexual

gray-asexuality:

mogai-archive:

definition: an orientation that seems to revolve around one person in particular

OR

an exception to one’s orientation, ie, someone who identifies as homosexual/homoromantic feeling attraction to someone of a different gender. in that case, it would be borearomantic/sexual towards someone.

comes from the latin root borea meaning north.

coined by: anonymous

That sounds like a pretty word.

Every time Hazel uses her debit card:
Card reader: Purchase $14.57 Okay?
Hazel: *whispers* Okay...

fuck-kirk:

sunsdown:

THIS IS SO CUTE OH MY GOSH IT’S SO HAPPY AND THERE ARE SO MANY BALLS TO CHOOSE FROM AND THEN IN THE END IT’S JUST SO OVERWHELMED WITH HAPPINESS IT HAS TO LEAVE

i dont have to say it we’re all thinking the same thing

Heteronormativity isn’t just about the presumption that everyone is heterosexual. The expectation that boys woo girls feeds into your mind the expectation that relationships are necessary for fulfilment, and you are less than if you are not having particular kinds of sex with a particular, and a particular kind of, person at particular intervals. It’s about what Lauren Berlant calls the love plot, in which love is produced as a generic text enabling society to interpret your life as following certain conventions. It’s not about what you want, it’s about what you’re supposed to want. You’re not encouraged to think about what you want in relationships, if anything, so much as you are encouraged to fit a script. Heteronormativity messes things up for everyone, straight people included.

Tossing the script of desire | Zero at the Bone (via brute-reason)

Have I already reblogged this? Don’t know don’t care.

(via queercore)

moonscoops:

Flapjack State: how to decode a person with an anxiety disorder

capricarnal:

euclase:

things we are trying to do all the time:

  1. be safe

things we can’t help but do all the time:

  1. second-guess ourselves
  2. behave impulsively and reactively
  3. take everything personally
  4. worry
  5. worry
  6. worry
  7. have difficulty accepting compliments
  8. have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
  9. have difficulty finding the courage to respond
  10. have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions
  11. make a huge deal out of the smallest thing

things you should keep in mind:

  1. we’re scared of everything
  2. pretty much all of the time
  3. it’s an actual disorder
  4. it manifests as impulsive behavior
  5. you can’t fix us with words
  6. telling us “worrying is silly” won’t make us stop worrying
  7. it’ll only make us feel silly
  8. and then we’ll worry even more
  9. “oh god, am i worrying too much? what if they call me silly again?”
  10. like that
  11. also, we wear a lot of armor
  12. cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
  13. we constructed this armor as children
  14. we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
  15. but there is a nice person under there, we promise

things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:

  1. stick around
  2. ask them if they’re comfortable in a place or situation
  3. be willing to change the place or situation if not
  4. activities that help them take their mind off of things are good!
  5. talk to them even when they might not talk back
  6. (they’re probably too afraid to say the wrong thing)
  7. try not to take their reactions (or lack thereof) personally
  8. (the way they expresses themself is distorted and bent because of their constant fear)
  9. (and they knows this)
  10. give them time to respond to you
  11. they will obsess over how they are being interpreted
  12. they will anticipate being judged
  13. it took me four hours just to type this much
  14. even though i sound casual
  15. that’s because i have an anxiety disorder

things you shouldn’t do:

  1. tell us not to worry
  2. tell us we’ll be fine
  3. mistake praise for comfort
  4. ask us if we are “getting help”
  5. force us to be social
  6. force us to do things that trigger us
  7. “face your fears” doesn’t always work
  8. because—remember—scared of everything
  9. in fact, it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself

emergency action procedure for panic attacks:

  1. be calm
  2. be patient
  3. don’t be condescending
  4. remind us that we’re not “crazy”
  5. sit with us
  6. ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
  7. remind us that we are breathing
  8. engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
  9. if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
  10. or breathe through our nose
  11. or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
  12. ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
  13. help us change it
  14. usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side willing to fight our scary monsters with us is enough to calm us down

if you have an anxiety disorder:

  1. it’s okay.
  2. even if you worry that it’s not okay.
  3. it’s still okay. it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be scared of being scared.
  4. you are not crazy. you are not a freak.
  5. i know there’s a person under all that armor.
  6. and i know you feel isolated because of it.
  7. i won’t make you take it off.
  8. but know that you are not alone.

gender-neutral version

gray-asexuality:

bonehatter:

daleksinbras:

elanchana:

lunaleven:

palavenblues:

holy shit there is a name for it

I identify as neither ace nor aro and I get this sometimes. 

Oh my gosh there’s finally a word for “I don’t always feel it but when I do I don’t want it”!!!!

OH

THIS FUCKING CHANGES EVERYTHING

Many of you described this to us. Apparently, there’s a word. Enjoy!
-Not a Can of Soup

gray-asexuality:

bonehatter:

daleksinbras:

elanchana:

lunaleven:

palavenblues:

holy shit there is a name for it

I identify as neither ace nor aro and I get this sometimes. 

Oh my gosh there’s finally a word for “I don’t always feel it but when I do I don’t want it”!!!!

OH

THIS FUCKING CHANGES EVERYTHING

Many of you described this to us. Apparently, there’s a word. Enjoy!

-Not a Can of Soup

mrprincesshorse:

therainbowgorilla:

alexianfireflies:

therainbowgorilla:

nextstepcake:

"Ace Hardware: No screwing, just lots of screws."
"Ace Hardware: Nail your roof, not your partner."
"Ace Hardware: For when it really is just a hammer in your pocket"
One of my friends wanted to see a photomanip of the ace hardware logo in ace flag colors, and then I thought of these terrible puns, so here you go.

At first I wasn’t going to reblog this but then I saw it again and just started laughing
my two favorite things: asexuality, and puns

and those puns are literally the best

I NEED more asexual puns
those are indeed the best

"Ace Hardware: Lube for your motor, not your junk"

mrprincesshorse:

therainbowgorilla:

alexianfireflies:

therainbowgorilla:

nextstepcake:

"Ace Hardware: No screwing, just lots of screws."

"Ace Hardware: Nail your roof, not your partner."

"Ace Hardware: For when it really is just a hammer in your pocket"

One of my friends wanted to see a photomanip of the ace hardware logo in ace flag colors, and then I thought of these terrible puns, so here you go.

At first I wasn’t going to reblog this but then I saw it again and just started laughing

my two favorite things: asexuality, and puns

and those puns are literally the best

I NEED more asexual puns

those are indeed the best

"Ace Hardware: Lube for your motor, not your junk"

Right this minute, there is someone going through chemotherapy shopping at your grocery store, buying popsicles and ice cream to help their sore mouth, and worrying what the cashier is going to think.

There is someone on hemodialysis buying white bread instead of whole wheat, trying to keep their phosphorus levels reasonable between appointments and hoping for the best.

There is a person attending intensive outpatient treatment for their eating disorder who has been challenged by their therapist to buy a Frappuccino.

There are dietitians picking up a dozen different candy bars to eat with their clients, who feel ashamed and guilty about enjoying them.

There is someone who just doesn’t have it in them to cook right now, and this frozen pizza and canned soup will keep them going.

There are people recovering from chronic dieting and semi-starvation who are buying chocolate and chips at their deprived body’s insistence.

All around us are people listening to what their bodies need and attempting to make the best possible choice within a context of overwhelming food pressure. All of their choices are valid, and every single one of these foods is “real.”

Michelle @ http://www.fatnutritionist.com (via onherplate)

wtf how is this on my dashboard and how does it have 20,000 notes? tumblr what the hell?

(via fatnutritionist)

it’s ‘cause you drop truth bombs so big nobody can ignore them.

(via notemily)

As a disabled person who doesn’t have the cognitive ability to cook for myself regularly, and needs to buy a lot of pre-made “junk” food just to sort of get by, and often goes hungry anyway- this means a lot to me.

(via lichgem)

I buy gum regularly with my EBT card.  I constantly wonder WTF the cashier is thinking of me.  Not that it should matter at all, but I’m on a feeding tube.  And I’m on meds that increase my appetite so much that I would swallow food if I didn’t chew gum.  If I were to swallow food, it would sit in my paralyzed stomach for however long (days, etc.) until the food and the extra buildup of bile and stuff from the food, went back into my lungs and gave me pneumonia and potentially killed me.   Gum also increases that risk, but it increases it much less, and prevents me from craving actual food.  But I have no means of explaining this when I pull out my EBT card to buy large quantities of gum at the corner store, on a regular basis.  So I’m sure they’re judging me.  Even though the gum is just as necessary as food is.

(via youneedacat)

softerworld:

A Softer World: 1113
(let’s hang out - TO THE DEATH)
buy this print

softerworld:

A Softer World: 1113

(let’s hang out - TO THE DEATH)

buy this print

goldenheartedrose:

autihottie:

samaeloliver:

lutecestofficial:

i was going to make a post that said “Autistic mermaid who’s special interest is humans and obsesses over everything she can find out about them” but then i remembered

image

THIS IS WHY AUTISTIC HEADCANON

omg i actually really like this

Yes bless this.